vrijdag 20 juni 2008

NICE regulations on ADHD Medication and All in the Mind

John sent a link to this week’s All in the mind, a BBC radio programme, in which children talk about how their ADHD medication helps them. The program coincides with new Nice (National Council for Clinical Excellence in UK) regulations on prescription of ADHD medications for children.

You can listen here-http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/science/allinthemind.shtml.

The relevant section is about ten minutes in.

A blanket, knee jerk ban on ritalin for under fives worries me, for children with serious problems it can help them gain skills within the critical period. Read how my grandson learnt to speak -

A happy,happy Day

donderdag 19 juni 2008

Handling Conflict at Work by Kevin Colyer

Blessed are the peacemakers,

for they will be called children of God.

Matthew 5:9 (TNIV)

  1. What are your feelings towards conflict at work?

  2. How do you handle dominant people?

  3. When does robust discussion become conflict in a team?

  4. Opposites attack! But so do two very similar people! Conflict can arise everywhere there is difference. Difference is not the same as wrong.

When you are in a conflict what outcome are you looking for?

  1. Some peace?

  2. A resolution to the conflict! But what does that really mean?

  3. Always aim to WIN PEOPLE not issues.

  4. Yet very, very infrequently the issue is greater than personalities.

Tools for resolving conflict:

Resolving a conflict might seem obvious enough a goal but it is not always clear in what way we should resolve it. Here are a few tools people use.

  • Competing – win!

  • Collaborating – win/win. This is the hardest one to learn. Few observable role models?

  • Compromising – middle ground

  • Avoiding – delay

  • Accommodating – yield

How to resolve conflicts

  1. Assume positive intent. (ignorance and mistakes rather than malice)

  2. Calm down. Get over the offence. Get it out of your system – DON’T OBSESSIVELY FOCUS ON IT.

  3. If the issue is touching a sensitive personal area of your life, make a note of it and try to deal with it or make some time to work on it later. Try not to take issues from other conflicts into this conflict.

  4. Don't talk about it all around – you could cause factions and make it worse.

  5. Who goes? You go.

    1. Go and talk between you – face to face

    2. If that doesn't work then you might need a mediator or a higher authority to come in and aid you to resolve the problem.

  6. Passivity vs Assertiveness vs Aggression. You have needs and rights as does the other person. You need to seek to express your needs and rights in a way that respects the other person's rights and needs. You need to allow the other person express themselves likewise.

  7. Seek first to understand then to be understood. The two people arguing problem.

  8. Use I statements. “I feel____ (taking responsibility for one's own feelings) when you_____ (stating the behaviour that is a problem) because____ (what it is about the behaviour or its consequences that one objects to) I’d appreciate it if you would_____ (offering a preferred alternative to the behaviour)

    Avoiding Never and Always.

  9. After understanding the problem fully a solution may suggest itself. Synergistic solutions can often appear here! It is gratifying when you can turn antagonism into synergy.

  10. Two ladies and one orange problem.

    (2 lady missionaries had been in the field many years. In all that time they had never seen an orange(This must be Sompting ,Sussex?). The day an orange arrived on the boat both ladies wanted it very much. They divided it between them. One missionary squeezed all the juice(about a third of a glass) drank it wistfully --and chucked the peel. The second missionary grated the peel to make her favourite cake, wished there was more peel- and discarded the rest of the orange. )

Phrases that are hard to say but can make a huge difference:

  1. I am sorry.

  2. I was wrong.

  3. Please forgive me.

How to make conflicts much much worse...

  1. Gossip

  2. Backbite

  3. Create factions

  4. Seek Revenge

  5. Sabotage!

You may end up in a worse state! And/or fired!

Conflicts that you can't resolve (despite trying)

  1. Forgive.

  2. Limit involvement/trust.

  3. Part ways.

  4. In a year or so after the feelings have subsided, take some time to reflect on the situation tp learn from it.

Strengths and Weaknesses that ADHD sufferers can bring into conflicts



  • Recognition that I have areas to work on! If I know what my frequent problem areas are then I can be willing to recognise that they may have made things worse! And be quicker to apologise. (Short temper, lack of attention to details, lack of attention to other's needs etc., blurting out hurtful things, suspicion of authority)

  • Good sideways thinking can bring excellent solutions to problems

  • Daring and like challenges. Conflict resolution is a challenge!

  • Lack of self awareness – this means I really need to listen well when resolving conflict.

  • Poor self image

  • Procrastination (Who goes? You go!)

  • Obsessively focusing on the problem

  • Suspicion and mistrust of authority. Being oppositional.

Is ADHD an advantage for Nomads?

Here’s a link to a Press Release ‘Is ADHD an advantage in early Tribesman?’

The researchers analysed how body mass and height correlated with alleles of the DRD4 gene in the Kenyan Ariaal, traditionally nomadic tribespeople. They found that the DRD4 7 rpt allele (one of the genes linked to adhd) was associated with better nourished nomads, but that Ariaal with this gene and living a modern lifestyle- were malnourished compared with carriers of other versions of DRD4, evidence that the impact of ADHD can be positive or negative , depending on the environment?